Divorced ! hmmmm

So happy I was. Hometown, family, friends, coffee and adda…after six years of staying away from home really slurp-slurp situation for me. Well, the office is new. Good too. Slurp again. But girl, I forgot as I grew older, my city too but the people, they are just running on the first block of being modern! Poor me, I returned from Bihar man, the Jungle raaj !! The other day when I was online quite late in night with a drum of chocolate, the messenger windows kept popping up with wishes from different persons. Few of them were really constant. And then it was followed by some really different kind of invitations which were definitely unwanted, awkward kept floating towards me and how smartly I can dodge them has become part of my daily routine now. Again ageing me. Turning 31 in 20 days. Quite grown up. Quite grown up to understand all the double meaning words of the universe. Grown up enough to understand the direct proposals from the unwanted men. Must be wondering why this unwanted discussion of indecent proposals. Look, my another newly added introduction is I am separated from my husband, getting a divorce. Half divorced. And there comes another struggle to the Indian woman. Ek toh akeli ladki khuli tijori hoti hai upar se agar divorcee hai toh tijori pura tumhara hai. Man when you are going through a divorce you are already exhausted. Mentally and physically drained out. Every day you try to save a little part of you to keep up with your job. But who is there to ease your life! Barring the set of people, having whom in your life you feel blessed, trust me there is none out there. At the end of 2016, yes men still see women as piece of flesh. They want sex and no drama. Once they get involved with a single girl, the burden of marriage may come to them. But divorced – she is an opportunity. She does not have mellow drama. One can get away with the pleasure before she feels anything, before she turns emotional. But universe, you are wrong. The person who is divorced, could be more struggle to handle. People, respect their decision. Respect their life. They have seen and been through more than many of you have been trough in life. They have seen the ‘’happily ever after” to break down in front of their eyes. They have taken it head on, happily, brutally or sadly. They are now a different race altogether. Might not be your cup tea. You mess with them, they might get deadly more than you could even thought of. They could be a nightmare dressed in a day dream or might be nothing, just looking for an emotional anchor. She is not an opportunity, she is now a different person. I am all these now. But I also know a class of our society is still not ready about how to handle a divorced person..a woman. You do not have to do anything.. People just learn to respect women, as they are. Nurture them as your equal. And sex, I guess you guys are not rapist, there is a term consensual.